Do I give my 10 yr old money for losing tooth today? He was grounded for misbehaving at school today.?

My 10 year old was given detention today for direspecting a teacher at school. His dad and I grounded him today but then he lost his tooth this evening. Would you give him money for losing his tooth today? Or does that just suck for him that his tooth came out while he's grounded?

Do I give my 10 yr old money for losing tooth today? He was grounded for misbehaving at school today.?
No, get the point across that the tooth fairy and other privileges are only for children who behave correctly. It has nothing to do with honor or feelings, if you must - tell him the tooth fairy is an adult and she heard about his act and does not approve.





If you reward him now, you are teaching him that his actions have no negative consequences.





There are some things you can slide on, but disrespect of adults/authority figures is not one of them. It not only disrupts the classroom but reflects negatively on your parenting. With boys especially, disrespect for teachers today can be disregard for laws tomorrow. If the detention were for something like talking in the library I would let it slide, but not for this!





If you feel bad, just reward him extra the next time he helps the teacher out or shows great respect.
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Reply:i would give it to him later.. when he isn't grounded... =)
Reply:They're two separate acts. You had a prior agreement about the tooth; honor it. Make sure you keep the other punishment but explain to your son the difference.
Reply:His tooth should have nothing to do with his grounding.


Its not something that can be later scheduled to happend another time.


Him losing his tooth should be treated like it would be any other day.





Give him the money but keep the other things taken away.
Reply:Does he still believe in the 'Tooth Fairy'? If so, then I think you should give him the money....the tooth fairy is just for loosing teeth, she/he doesn't care if you were grounded or not. If he know that the tooth fairy is the........., then tough luck for him.





Good Luck


Momma P
Reply:I guess it would depend on how you're giving him the money. Are you giving it to him as his parents? Or is the "Tooth Fairy" giving it to him?





I would imagine that for the Tooth Fairy to not reward a lost tooth like that might cause some upset in your son. I would have hated to think that I had was being punished by anyone (Tooth Fairy, Santa) when I was younger. It would have been traumatizing to think that a being that supposedly is so nice and benevolent would punish you. If he knows it's you giving him the money, then by all means withhold it.





However if he does think it's from the Tooth Fairy, then my best recommendation would be to give him the money, but then when he shows you what he's gotten tomorrow, explain that he is grounded and the money will be returned to him when he's not grounded.





I think that lets him keep his childhood innocence and belief in good things, while showing him the consequences of his actions.
Reply:Treat the lost tooth just like you normally would.





Bad behavior needs to be addressed, but he is not all bad and it is good to see good and bad both and love him through it all.





If you were late with a report at work yesterday, it wouldn't (hopefully) impact the bonus from last quarter.
Reply:why cant the tooth fairy make her visit tomorrow night? he is being punished for his actions right? so the tooth fairy can come tmorrow night.





it may seem mean, but consistency works
Reply:At 10 he probably has a savings acct. Put the money in it, telling him he's not really entitled to spend it after what he did at school.
Reply:ok so is this a matter of beleiving in the tooth fairy? if he does maybe now is the time to cut it out, if its just money for a fallen tooth from his parents i think it should stop to. if you dont want to stop, and he beleives in the fairy say well the tooth fairy doesnt come to kids who are bad! and the same if its just money given by you saying you dont get rewarded if you are bad!
Reply:well if he still believes in the tooth fairy, then YOU grounded him, NOT the tooth fairy.





if he dosent, i think you shold still give him the money. its not like he will be able to spend it until hes off punishment anyways.
Reply:he most likely doesnt know that the tooth fairy is actually u so yea give it to him when he put it under his pillow
Reply:yes give it to him but you keep it till he's not grounded and even then maybe make him give some to charity, you can still make a big deal of the tooth it is a milestone none the less. but make him wait for the money
Reply:The toothfairy doesn't know anything about him being grounded





I think that might clue him in that you are the toothfairy...
Reply:My mom used to tell me and my brother that just like santa and all the other mythical people are always watching and that they no you did something bad. So that night don't give him any money and the next day if he asks why thats all you have to say then if he dose something really good that day that night you cna just not alot try giving him less than what you normaly would



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